Self Care is not Selfish

When was the last time you read a book?

Actually, when was the last time you took 15 minutes out of your day just for you? Not doing the laundry, not hiding in the bathroom. Just for you. Out in the spring sunshine, rejuvenating yourself while doing one thing just for you?

I have re discovered reading. (Shock horror I know!)

The past couple of weekends here in Melbourne have been glorious! The sun just feels a little warmer, the light at the end of the lockdown life seems to be getting that little bit closer, and I feel the heaviness of a tough winter seemingly melt away.

For the first time in ages, I finished Liane Moriarty's 'The Hypnotist Love Story' in 4 days. I feel like my mind has calmed so much in the past few months, that I can sit comfortably and let myself unwind.

Anyone else feel that that has been a struggle? Quietening my mind over the years has been one of my downfalls. But the moment I let go of the control of needing to constantly be doing something, is the same moment I realised how much I need to slow down.

For such a long time, I thought taking time for me meant that I was being selfish. I felt that taking time for me wasn't a good thing, as I needed to be busy or do something to serve others.

What I didn't realise, was the more time I took for me, the more time I had to give to others. I took time for me to chill, be centered and escape, then I had more patience and a more easy going nature to my loved ones.

So, my advice to you is this. Schedule 15 minutes of time a day just for you. To stand outside, to have a coffee, to breathe or anything that brings joy and happiness into your life.

It isn't selfish to put yourself first. It's selfish to think you don't deserve or think you matter enough to have this time. My top pick this week is Luxuread. A great book subscription service that supplies a perfect package to help you take that time out each day just for you!